What are the best practices for selecting dating profile photos that show your personality?
We’ve all heard that “authenticity is attractive,” but when it comes to dating profile photos, it’s easier said than done.
You might love a picture of yourself on vacation, but does it show your sense of humor? Or your soft side? Or the way you light up when you talk about dogs, spreadsheets, or salsa dancing?
The key is choosing photos that aren’t just accurate, but expressive - ones that capture your Presence Signature.
Presence Signature is the emotional imprint you leave in a photo. It’s not about what you’re doing or wearing, but the way your energy moves through the image. It’s the difference between “Here’s me smiling at a camera” and “Here’s me lighting up in a moment that felt like mine.”
Here are a few best practices to highlight your personality in photos:
Lead with your eyes. Eye contact (with the camera or not) creates connection. Your gaze says a lot - are you quiet, confident, playful, curious…?
Show, don’t stage. Instead of stiffly posing with a guitar to say “I love music,” try a photo where you’re genuinely playing or laughing in the moment.
Include variety. Different aspects of you belong in your profile. A warm headshot, a candid, a photo doing something you love, one that shows movement - all these help people get a fuller sense of you.
Let the background support your story. Your environment is part of your Presence Signature. A quiet bookstore corner says something different than a rooftop brunch.
Ask a trusted friend. Sometimes they’ll see something in a photo you missed - your calm, your spark, your weird and wonderful edge.
Your photos should tell the beginning of your story. And the right story doesn’t just get you noticed, it gets you understood.
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